Master Boundaries to Boost Entrepreneurial Success & Balance Family Life

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What is going on, my people?

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Welcome back to another episode of the Modern Leadership Podcast.

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And today my amazing, beautiful I can't even speak co-host with me, teresa, here, how you doing Great, all right, we literally just recorded this back to back, I'm not going to lie, all right.

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So this is right.

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After our first one, we hope you guys enjoyed it.

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Even if you didn't, please let us know, because we're always trying to strive to get better.

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So today, what we really want to talk about is something that we have.

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We actually have a lot of clients that we work with, right, we have clients.

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We help one-on-one.

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We help clients with what's called a success pod, which is a smaller group of people who get the opportunity of working with us one-on-one, and then we have our inner circle membership.

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It's like $10 a month.

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You get access to us twice a month and we do special trainings and stuff for you.

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Needless to say, we talk to a lot of people who want to excel in business, also create a deeper connection with their family and keep their physical, mental health on point, and so, getting to have these conversations, we talk to a lot of people, we coach a lot of people, we mentor a lot of people and as we're doing that, we sometimes find that a lot of our clients are struggling with the same thing and then, once we help them through that thing, they kind of like move on to the next process, the next thing that they're looking to learn.

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Some of these things are things that we've personally have rolled through, and some of them are out of left field because they just didn't, they weren't something that we struggle with right.

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But while we're doing this, whenever we have key lessons that we want to make sure that we bring to the podcast, that we make sure that everybody knows, we want to bring them here for you here.

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And that's what we want to do today is really talk about some of the things that our clients maybe have struggled through or grown through recently that we think that the podcast listeners would really benefit from hearing.

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So I'll start off with you Is there something that your clients have been going through and how have you helped them or what have they learned through that process?

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Yeah, I think one of the things that has been kind of this ongoing theme is not being able to set boundaries.

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People know that that's an important thing but for some reason they convince themselves that they can't do it or that it's going to be something that they feel is going to mess things up.

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So you know, this is something that we work through over many different sessions because you can't just, like you know, figure it out in one session.

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I mean, even getting to the point where setting boundaries is an issue takes some time right.

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That's why we have many different sessions sort of around the same thing and I find that or I have found that people sometimes feel especially mom entrepreneurs they feel like they can't set boundaries because they have to be available for everyone all the time and like that's their role.

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And they may not realize that on the surface level in their conscious mind, but it definitely is in their subconscious and the things that they do basically will start to revolve around that.

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So I know that there have been a couple of clients that one is working through.

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It right now is like in the thick of it and like we're working on time management, creating boundaries, schedule and all of that and that has been something that you think about.

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You're like, oh OK, I'm just going to, you know, fix my schedule, manage my time a little bit, and you feel like that's something that's going to be easy for you and it might be, but for others it can be a big, big struggle.

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And I'm finding that with one of our clients.

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But then for another one, like I remember she had mentioned setting boundaries with her work.

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So she has a full-time job and then she's trying to grow her own personal business and it was something that was really affecting her emotionally and physically, where she was also having trouble sleeping.

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So it was really affecting her in many different ways and I won't go into too much detail, obviously, because we want to keep everybody's stuff confidential.

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But she went through something personal and then that kind of shifted her mindset and also, working with us and you know, kind of reframing her thoughts around this.

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But it seems like now she's got a better grip on setting boundaries with her work, where it's like, okay, these are my hours for work and that's it, I cut it off and I'm not available.

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Now it's time to work on my business, because there was a shift for her, especially because it was really.

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She was kind of thinking like her business was kind of like a thing that she would.

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She had on the side that if she had time she could work on it, but her, her full-time job was like a priority and it's kind of like she shifted her mind on no, I really want this business to work, so I'm going to put in the effort and make time for it.

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So it was like that shift in mindset that was really key and still working through that.

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So those are some of the things that I see currently.

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So you said boundaries.

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It kind of sounds like.

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For the first one it was like time boundaries, right, being able to tell your time where to go, just like how a budget tells your money where to go, your schedule tells your time where to go, right.

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And then the second one talks about a little bit more about boundaries, but it's kind of like personal boundaries related to work, yeah, so it's kind of like sounds like the theme of boundaries and um, I want I did have a question and it'll pop back up in, uh, in my mind in a second but like when you, when you think about um, boundaries just in and of itself, like um, one of the things I like to think about is boundaries comes from a place of love, not from a place of.

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I'm angry right now, in this moment.

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Let me set boundaries or let me set my schedule, let me do this.

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It comes from a place of like hey, this is the best for everyone that's involved, so that way I can buy into it.

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And whether or not they buy into it, I'm okay with their response to it, right, because it's like these are the boundaries for me to to lay out, right?

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So I'm curious, um, for the first one, when it comes to like time management and that kind of stuff, um, uh, I want to throw something at you, because this is something that I have found, more times than not, has actually been the case, especially for people who are coaches, who understand mindset, who understand that just the process of like what do you focus on?

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Grows, right, that a lot of people.

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They try to take on something new without eliminating something that's either not working or that isn't moving the needle forward the most, and what they do is they get to this point where they're like okay, I'm working my full-time job, I have my kids, I have my health and fitness, and then I'm also going to add a business on, and they don't think about taking anything off.

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They just keep adding, adding, adding, and then they get into this thought of like I just need to fix my mindset, and it's like fix your mindset, look at your calendar and your schedule and all of the things that you're doing 24-7, 365.

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I have a very specific client that comes to mind.

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She's literally like when she's at work, she's giving all the work.

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When she's trying to do her business, she's doing her business.

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And when she's like at home with family, family, she's like literally cooking them, like multiple different foods, multiple different times, like staying in the kitchen.

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All that like doing all these things, wondering like, why am I not able to like have success in this area?

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And I'm like a lot of it has to do with, like what you have on your plate with time, and so I'm curious for you, like have you found that when you slow down and you don't just tell people to think differently, you get them them to go?

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Let's actually look at what your schedule looks like, that them being able to see that is the aha moment, whether it's the wow I'm wasting a lot of time or I didn't realize I'm doing all of these things myself, and it gives them the power to make a decision to change something so they can have the time to do that.

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Does that come up for you too?

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Yeah, and I think, yes, it really does.

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And I think the biggest thing and I think when people kind of see what is really happening and kind of buy into yeah, this is what I need to do Like I need to take stuff off my plate, I need to delegate, I need to do all that stuff is when you tie in time with energy.

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They go hand in hand, because if you're putting so much time and effort into things that aren't moving the needle forward, that's taking energy away from you and away from the things that really do move the needle forward.

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And even in your personal life it's the same thing.

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And when people realize that, when they feel that energy drain, that's when they start to realize, okay, something's got to give and I need to make some changes.

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And it is a mindset shift.

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But it's also like think about this logically If you're spending so much time in this area, how are you going to give time in this other area?

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You can't.

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I mean, time is time, right?

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So I think that's when and that's kind of like the angle that I take sometimes too is with the time is also energy.

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So the more time that you're wasting, the more energy you're draining.

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So when you can, you know, start to kind of figure things out, and figure things out in a way where you're actually working less and gaining more in whatever it is that you want to gain.

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That's really kind of like that people don't even want to examine what they're doing with their time because their limiting beliefs wants to prevent them from finding a way of doing something different.

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Right, Because if they're like, oh, I do find time for my business, oh well, that means I have to work my business and I'm so petrified what's going to happen if I do this, this or this?

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And then what they didn't realize is the reason why their brain didn't want them to slow down and actually analyze where they are with their time.

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I know we help our clients do a time audit, right, and then like it doesn't even want to do that.

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It's like no, no, no, push back against this because we don't want to expose something that maybe would have us spend more time in our business or do those things that are uncomfortable for us.

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But there's also shame involved in that, because they're like oh, I know I'm wasting time, I know I'm scrolling social media, and there's shame involved in that.

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So we try to like no, no, no.

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Like there's no shame in anything, like we're just we're trying to grow, we're learning how to manage our time wisely.

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There's no room for, and no need to to put shame or anything, or judgment or anything like that.

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Like, let's just, let's just put the numbers down, let's put the times and you know whatever, and let's not try to focus on well, I'm doing something wrong.

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It's like I'm just making changes.

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You need to know where you're going, right, which is why we do our breakdown sessions with all of our clients to figure out what they want to achieve.

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But the second place you need to know where you are.

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Yeah, and you're not mad where you're at the coordinates on the map, like it's irrelevant to say like, oh my God, I'm just so upset that I'm in this city right now.

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You're like, no, I'm in the city route, right, and there's going to be detours, there's going to be road construction, there's going to be accidents, there's going to be all these things.

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But you're going to be able to find as long as you know where you're at.

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Otherwise, if you're like, just go east, you don't know if you're in Florida or California and if you're trying to get to the center of the United States, are you going to get there?

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Probably not if you're just going to go east, right.

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So when you where you are, it gives you the greatest opportunity to figure out how to get to where you want to be Right.

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So I know that that was a really, really big one because, like obviously our clients, we work with a lot of the same clients and that's something that we do here that I don't think many other people do I don't know if even our podcast or YouTube listeners even know this is that we have programs where we actually get to work with both of us as a coach, right.

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So we have one-on-ones, where somebody works with me once a month and you once a month, and then we have a success pod where you have three to four people that are put together in a success kind of formula.

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It's a little bit less expensive than a one-on-one and they get one call with me and one call with you per month and they get to see it from all these different angles, from the clarity, the harmony and the intentionality Sorry, it's the Chi method, but I totally forgot what the C was for a minute.

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They get to hear it from that perspective, from you, and for me they get to hear it from a little different perspective, like using a little bit more logic or using a lot more like coaching and that kind of stuff, right, and being able to see both of those things.

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So, and by the way, if anybody's ever interested in doing that or applying to see which one of those would be best, we'll leave you a quick link inside of the show notes so that you guys can have access to this.

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But we also just want to let you know that the things that people are struggling with right now, like you getting through them, makes you the perfect person to be able to help the next person get through it too.

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So if you're struggling with time management, you're struggling with boundaries.

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So if you're struggling with time management, you're struggling with boundaries, you're struggling with these things.

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There's so much opportunity in you getting past it Now.

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You could do it by yourself 100%.

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I know that you can.

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It just might take you a lot longer.

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It's what.

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The reason why seven or eight years of me spinning my wheels is because I was doing it on my own.

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But if you want to speed up the process, if we can help you, or you find another mentor or coach somewhere else that can help you, I'm like just lean in, because we want you to have success as quickly as possible so you can start to experience what it's like when you've been able to achieve that.

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So thank you, guys.

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Once again, any feedback that you have from these episodes, please don't hesitate to reach out on social media, on our YouTube channel, modern Leadership, or inside of our free app if you're in a part of our book club.

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Reach out, let us know what you love, what you don't like, maybe some questions that we can answer for you.

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We would love to be able to do that for you.

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Thank you for what you do out there every single day, for being a leader in the time of darkness, when really what we need is light, and that's what you do.

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That's what your business does.

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We appreciate you so much and if we can spread the word and share your business with other people, that's what we love to do.

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